This sort of thing makes me value my freedom, and realize how important it is to ensure you identify well with your partner before you pop the big Q.
I would hate to feel bad because I bought what I wanted for MY car and she was mad about it, because I damn sure am not going to allow her to be the sole reason I'm not enjoying what I drive.

To the thread poster: I'd explain to the wife just how much the car means to you, if it really does.. and seriously, it hurt to hear that she wanted to spend your SS money on a dang import sedan thats about as exciting as last week's mashed potatoes.

Good luck sir!

 

Tricky situation. But when she says "no", that just means that it is the start of the negotiations. She is probably trying to get something out of it. The real trick is to figure out what she really wants without straight up asking her. You *cannot* ask her or insinuate in any way that she wants something in exchange for her permission. This would just set her off.

When you finally figure it out, put it to her something like this, "You know, I've been thinking when I get the Camaro, I think we should both get something. I think maybe you should get a (something)"

If your situation doesn't allow for two big purchases that may be part of the problem as well. She may feel inwardly that you are being selfish by making a big buy like that without respect for her.

Another situation is to make getting the Camaro her idea. This is probably the hardest situation to create but has the best results. She may currently be against the idea but you need to get her to suggest you get it.

 

She hasn't actually said "no," she says; "if you can afford it." Which turns out to mean it can't be financed and I can't take money from anywhere else in the budget.
I have to have my own separate cash. I can use the money I got from the sale of my 4th gen., but that won't be enough by itself. So I'm saving what I can each month out of my personal allowance (we each get a little no-questions-asked money each paycheck.)

It would be ideal if I could get her to want it too, but I'm not sure if that's achievable. I'm hoping when they come out and she sees it she'll like it.

BTW the Camry she currently drives we obtained by trading in my previous '96 Z28 vert..

She really is a good woman and we get along great on most things. She's just very frugal and not into cars.

Maybe by some miracle she'll fall in love with it in person but I'm doubting that based on her response to the pre-production pictures which was very disappointingly negative.

 

Dude, you already traded in one of YOUR cars to get HER one. She owes you!!!! Grow a pair

I don't think you've answered... will this be your DD, or just a toy... do you have 15 other cars/trucks/projects??? What are you driving now... will that be traded in as well???

...and she doesn't need a new Camry... they last FOREVER!

 

Marrage is a give and take. Fighting only makes life harder. I give in to what my wife wants for her car and I take what I want for my car. Also thank God I make more money that she does. It makes it easier.

 

Got that right! How come she can get a new car w/ no financing restrictions and you can't? Put the pants back on and work it out.

 

yeah I thought that too but I think the "one" was the '02 SS vert which I got AFTER she got the Camry.

It will probably have to be daily driver. Right now I'm driving an Impala but I promised it to my daughter when she gets her license.

yeah she even admits she doesn't NEED a new one. More of a want. Like me and a 5th gen..

 

My girlfriend told me that she wanted to marry the 5th gen camaro when she saw the white pre-production. Hphmm..

 

kinda sound like a car salesman!

 

But that's gone now... again, it's was YOUR car, so YOUR turn

Sounds like a perfect scenario to get a new Camaro to me

As you've said, she doesn't give a rip about cars, you do. If she wants to drive a boring old camry, it's no different than a boring new camry. You'll truely appreciate the camaro. HUGE DIFFERENCE between her want to have a new car (and not needing one) and you being a car guy (I'm assuming based on past camaro's) and WANTING the new Camaro, because it's what you like.

Best of luck to you, I really hope you can swing getting one and keep the little lady happy, but from an outsider looking in, it really looks like you're getting the shaft...

My girl LOVES horses. EXPENSIVE AS HELL! She gets to do her thing, I get to do mine (spend $ on my rides.)

 

Well, I'm trying to sell my wife on the Camaro, so I guess in a sense I am.

 

I sat my wife down and showed her the picture and told her, "This is the new Camaro. They'll go on sale next year, but I plan to hold out until the Z28 becomes available. This will be my next new car."

She hasn't said, "no."

 

All this makes being Divorced with the Alimony and Child Support a distant memory a good thing.

Although with what she gets a month from my Army Retirement would make a great car payment.

But still worth it as now I can do: What I Want, When I Want and If I Want. Lastly if I don't Want to I Don't have to.

 

Let's put this in simple terms? WTF are you asking her for in the first place? Why is it even being discussed? I had a 94 Z28 when we got married 12 years ago. I traded it in on a 96 Z28 a year after we got married. Same polo green- didn't tell her I was buying it- just came home with it after work. Didn't say a word... she left in the morning and didn't even notice it. (to be fair we were in an apartment and she wasn't parked right next to me but she did have to drive by it to leave). If I hadn't taken her to dinner that night who knows how long it would have been before she even noticed. Kind of couldn't hide T-tops, automatic, and leather; old one was a base Z28...

In any case, I held onto that car until Sept 04 when I bought my GTO; didn't tell, discuss, hint, ask, beg, NOTHING. Left work a little early one Thursday afternoon, went to the dealer, looked, bought. Went home saying nothing to the wife, ate dinner, played with the kids, and went to bed. Came home with it the next day. She called and asked where I was after work that day and I told her I was picking up my new car and I'd be home in about an hour. That's the kind of discussion that one should have regarding buying a new piece of equipment for the man cave.

 

First off I dont know where the caveman came from, But If my husband bought something that we will be making payments on with out speaking to me about it unless it was for me as a present, (even then he might say something like I got you something BUT we still need to make payments). Then his butt will be grass & mine wuuld too if I did the same thing. Its called RESPECTING each other.


Do you beat your wife too if she doesnt listen you too or goes out & spends 1000 on clothes that she doesnt need?